have to agree with DG - when i was going through my daughter's stillbirth and my sons death, just writing it down really helped me to articulate what i was feeling, and therefore allowed me to deal with those thoughts and emotions because they were identified. I found it incredibly difficult to face anyone in real life except my husband, so the format of an internet forum suited me very well. In fact i wouldn't even go out into the garden for a few months, for fear of seeing the neighbours. With an internet forum, if you become overwhelmed, you can simply shut it down and go back to it when you are feeling stronger.
I was very scared, and while of course nothing anyone else could say could alter the outcome for either of them, even help with advice on the practical things - death certificate, choosing funerals etc was very welcome. And it made it all the sweeter when i announced the birth of my daughter, because in a way it felt like you had all been there with me through the darkest times