eve I was in a marriage like this, they do not change in fact they are Jekyll and Hide characters, they present a nice persona to all around them but are really control freaks, I don't think they have to take after anyone to be like this and as long as this young girl allows him to control her, he will, he will also cry and beg forgiveness for his behavior again and again when she tries to reason with him, he won't change I am afraid, sorry this sounds blunt but I have been there