I guess the point I was making is that AH is happy enough being a man, so for him or anyone else in that position to cross-dress is, presumably, the sort of thing he might do "for fun", at a party, or that sort of thing. At any rate, the clothes and wig would go on "on a whim", so to speak, and are nothing to do with gender identity. Clothes don't maketh the woman.
All of the gender identity issues come before -- long, long before -- you actually slip into the dress and wig and that. *That's* what's important. Not the clothes you wear, but what you are thinking before, during, and after wearing them.
Returning to the original story, that's why I'm wary. It's possible that young Star (or Star Cloud?) is going to grow up indeed with questions about his gender identity, and if he ever got around to asking them then I am sure that most people would be happy to be supportive (if not instantly encouraging, which is perfectly understandable for the very young). But given the choices his parents have made, is he going to be exploring his gender identity of his own volition, or because he thinks that's what his parents want?
Hard to say. I would not be surprised to hear that, in a few years' time, Star Cloud settles into being just one or the other, if perhaps in touch with his feminine side. What I hope, at least, is that he does get to be his own person. Parenting in this style could be just as much a risk to that as trying to suppress gender identity questions in the young.